Tales of a Fourth-Grade Something: Friend Trouble
Have you ever had trouble with friends before? Has a friend ever been mad at you and you didn’t know why? Have you ever been caught in the middle of two friends who don’t always get along? Lately, I’ve been having a lot of friend problems, and I’ve been talking to my parents about them. It started me thinking about what makes a good friend and that’s what I thought I would write about this week.
There are a lot of things I look for in a friend. One of them is that a friend should always stand up for you if someone is bullying you. (Oh, and by the way, I’m not going to write about all the qualities like nice and sharing. I think some things are obvious). No matter what, a friend should always try to defend and help you out when someone is bullying you.
If you can’t find the courage to stand up to him or her, sometimes a friend will and put a stop to the problem. I’ve been bullied before (like I am sure most of you have) and there have been times when friends have had to help me. Those friends still are my friends and are very special to me.
Another thing a good friend should never do is boss you around. If your friend does, you need to tell them very matter-of-factly to stop. It is important that you shouldn’t always feel like you have to do what your friend says and that your friend should be willing to do what you want to do sometimes.
I hate it when the teachers tell us to pick partners. It can be hard to decide between friends. Someone’s feelings always get hurt. Sometimes people feel left out. Sometimes people get mad at you because someone else picks you for a partner when they wanted to pick you. I wish teachers would just tell you who your partner is so no one gets hurt.
Another problem I’ve had is friends being mad at me and I don’t know why. Sometimes a friend spends all day being mad at me and won’t tell me the reason. This is especially hurtful. It also hurts when a friend is ignoring you or running away from you. It is hard to pretend that I don’t care and it doesn’t hurt (that’s my mom’s advice).
My mom has told me to keep my old friends and branch out and make new ones. She tells me that problems with friends will pass and that friends will always be important to me.
Audrey Ray is a fourth-grader at Westerly Elementary School.